When talking about self-esteem, we are mostly talking about women, and sometimes men get left behind. This doesn’t mean they don’t need a boost from time to time. This one is going to be dedicated to men and giving them advice on how they can achieve feeling more confident.
How to Build Confidence as a Man
We all need confidence; whether it is for work, relationships or for public speaking. Nobody is created with unlimited confidence; it is something we learn as we grow older. Most people you see that have a lot of confidence have been practicing for many years, and you also can be like them.
While there is no single quick formula, there are steps, that when combined, lead to a more confident you. We all face some form of rejection in life, and this causes our confidence levels to dwindle. It could be a negative comment from someone you love, or people laughing at you when you do something wrong.
Here are a few steps you can take to lead to a more confident life!
Take Care of Your Health
Even if it, at first, doesn’t seem like an important thing, taking care of your health should be one of the priorities because it will reflect on your mood and even on your physical appearance. This includes regular checkups of your private parts as well.
Besides this, one of the most important parts of taking care of your health is a proper diet, which will make you look and feel great. The right foods will give you energy and improve the look of your hair and skin.
Pick the Right Wardrobe for You
When going shopping, you should try to follow the trends if that is what you like but, more importantly, you should choose the wardrobe that fits your body type. The right shirt or pants can make you feel great and attractive, and this is proven to boost your confidence.
A fitted, basic white or black shirt, for example, looks good on anyone, and you can pair it with either jeans or shorts.
Make sure to get pieces that are flattering, including colors and patterns. Also, choosing the right men’s underwear also can affect self-esteem, even if we know nobody is going to see it. So, take your time and pick something you’ll feel great wearing.
Create a Fitness Routine
The core of self-esteem issues for many people is physical appearance. Health is one reason you should find a good fitness routine, and the other is because working out is the biggest self-esteem booster.
You don’t have to have an athlete’s body, the process of exercising itself is what will make you feel more attractive. After training, you will definitely feel happy, positive and fulfilled, which is not important just for looks, but also for managing stress, and dealing with anger, and tension.
Don’t Compare Yourself to Others
Up to a point, it is in human nature to compare ourselves with others. However, there are times, when we get so caught up in it that comparing starts to reflect badly on our mood and self-esteem.
Men don’t like to admit it, but they compare the other guy’s hair, muscles, height and much more.
It is important to understand that you can get yourself to believe you have everything that you need. If you have problems with hair loss, look for bald men and trends on the internet, and you will see that you can wear it confidently. Besides, some of the hottest men are bald.
If you want to lose weight, and get fit, exercising is an option, which will make you feel and look great. Even the most common of all men’s insecurities can ultimately be changed with a penile enlargement procedure, although years of experience show that women don’t care about size, it is mostly in your head. If it happens that you compare jobs and the amount of money, understand that men’s power is not mirrored in how much money he makes and what car he drives.
You can always better yourself, earn, and achieve great things if you are not happy with where you are. However, make sure your progress includes reading, learning, being more compassionate and sensitive, because when you learn to love those things about yourself, you will realize that’s enough.
Surround Yourself with Positive People
Do not expect to live a positive and healthy life if negative people surround you. If you want to be more confident, identify positive friends that you admire and ask them to help you.
It is a fact that the environment we are in, determines to a degree how we are going to act and feel. It is important for your self-esteem to be around people who will inspire you to always do better and who will be a support through any progress and changes you are making.
When you spend time in a healthy environment like this, there is no way you will ever feel like you are not good enough, because you have people who push you and are always there for you.
As you spend more time with positive people, your life starts to change for the better. There are times it could be necessary to move and change your surrounding if you are surrounded with negative people all the time.
The Art of Visualization
You go where your mind leads you.
You cannot expect to have a positive life while your mind is negative. If you visualize a confident you, your mind will start looking for ways to bring this to pass. Every time you are alone, visualize the type of life you want.
Be specific when visualizing.
Push Yourself Beyond Your Limits
We all have stuff that scares us. One way of gaining confidence is to do something that pushes you from your comfort zone.
If you are afraid of heights, try bungee jumping with a friend.
You will realize that you are capable of so much more.
Most of the motivational speakers we view on TV or online were at some point in their lives afraid to stand before crowds of people and speak. They overcome their fears one day at a time by doing that which they thought was impossible. You could be facing an addiction challenge like Adderall withdrawal, so you need to make small goals such as being drug-free for one month, then two months.
Every child needs to be positively affirmed as they grow older. Affirmations are crucial for building healthy self-esteem.
Affirmations are positive statements that you make about yourself, and they should be spoken aloud to be effective.
You can tell yourself that you are beautiful and wonderfully made. Your mind will soon pick up these positive affirmations, and you should soon experience a positive life. Also, make the affirmations in the form of questions.
Our brains tend to pick up these more quickly.
Silence Your Inner Critic
We all have an inner critic ready to criticize us whenever we do something wrong. The inner critic is responsible for our low confidence levels. The inner critic is usually formed due to the negative experiences we have had as children, and it becomes more powerful as we grow older.
To silence your inner critic, analyze your thought patterns and question them for validity. What you are telling yourself about yourself is most of the time not true or is exaggerated. If you find yourself constantly calling yourself a failure, question the evidence that your mind presents.
Failing once or twice does not make you a failure.
Helping someone else who is facing the same challenge as you can help you get the attention away from yourself, and off to another person. When you help someone succeed, you also succeed.
Helping the less fortunate helps you build an attitude of gratitude. It helps you stop focusing on yourself, and beginning to focus on others.
Identify Your Talents
The world will not help you become a copycat of someone else, but it will assist you to become a better version of yourself. It is vital that you identify what you are good at early on in life.
Your talent can lie in music, drawing, dancing, or nearly anything else. When you practice your talents, you become more confident, and this spreads to other areas of your life. When you follow your talents, you feel appreciated and unique.
Celebrate Your Achievements
It is good to appreciate yourself when things are going well. You can take yourself out or buy yourself a gift when you achieve something small or great. Instead of waiting for someone to appreciate you, learn to do it yourself.
As humans, we tend to lay a lot of focus on our flaws while ignoring our achievements. If you are going to become a more confident you, you will need to focus on your strengths while working on your weaknesses.
In the same way that you appreciate yourself, learn to take compliments gracefully; not in an egotistical way but with soberness.
Many people who have low self-esteem tend to brush off compliments sent there way with comments like “you are exaggerating.”
When someone compliments you, say thank you. Also, learn to give compliments.
As you accept this part of yourself, you will notice your confidence levels rising again.
Look Into the Mirror
We are often too busy chasing careers to have the time to look ourselves in the mirror and smile at ourselves. While at it, do some positive affirmations.
The mirror sends positive signals to your brain which releases positive emotions. When you practice smiling at yourself, you will notice other people smiling back at you.
You can practice this when you go to the store to purchase groceries; say thank you and smile at the attendant. They could be having a difficult day, and your smile is what they need to get through the day.
Confidence is crucial if you are going to succeed in life. No one is born confident; people learn along the way by making positive changes to their lives.
When you become confident, you spread the positive energy to those around you.
Working on every aspect of yourself, every day, even if it means small steps, is the key to boosting your self-esteem. You can always find validation in women you date, but until you are content with who you are, it will all be short-term.
Instead, invest some time into following these steps, and in a while, you will begin to see changes.