Sex is an intimate act that is central to many romantic relationships. However, the sex life of many men is tormented by the inability to last in bed.
The average time for sexual intercourse ranges between 4-6 minutes. Unfortunately, 1 in 10 men is continuously unable to cross the 2-minute mark. When the symptom lasts more than six months with regular sexual activity, a medical assessment is necessary.
A reduced time can be attributed to premature ejaculation (P.E), erectile dysfunction, and performance anxiety. The latter is common, especially during the sexual debut.
Although a reduced ejaculatory time is a common problem, there are numerous ways to extend your time in bed and make sex enjoyable. However, it all depends on the root of the problem.
Managing Premature Ejaculation (P.E.)
Premature ejaculation is common among men. However, it’s only a concern if it causes problems between couples. There are two main types of premature ejaculation: primary and secondary P.E.
The former starts when a man becomes sexually active and can remain a lifelong issue when left untreated. Secondary P.E occurs later in life, and it’s associated with physical or psychological factors. Depression, stress and prostate pathologies have been associated with secondary P.E. Premature ejaculation has medical interventions that have been shown to work.
Priligy is a drug that has been shown to delay ejaculation by slowing chemical reactions in the ejaculatory cascade. Results have shown the drug can extend the ejaculatory time threefold.
EMLA cream is a local anaesthetic cream that numbs nerve endings on the penis to reduce stimulation and extend ejaculatory time.
Anaesthetic condoms use the same principle and are equally valid.
Managing Erectile Dysfunction
Erectile dysfunction is a consequence of poor blood circulation in the penis. Over 50% of men over 40 years will have erectile dysfunction at some point in their lives. Although psychological factors can cause dysfunction, physical causes are the most common.
Obesity, hypertension and diabetes have been shown to cause erectile dysfunction.
Aside from psychological counselling, pharmacological interventions are effective in managing erectile dysfunction. Viagra, Cialis, Spedra and other drugs increase blood flow to the penis and help an individual last longer in bed.
Since psychological and physical factors have a significant influence on sexual performance, it’s essential to make use of behavioural changes that can improve performance.
It’s important for couples to expand their definition of sex. Sexual pleasure can be obtained in different ways. Penile penetration is only one of the many ways to have sex.
Couples can explore other safe methods like oral sex to make their sex life exciting. Other sex methods are not replacements for penile penetration but only supplements.
Try out different sex positions that make him last longer in bed. Studies have shown that different sex positions stimulate the penis differently. The most sensitive part of the penis is the glans.
Any position that has minimal stimulation in this area is likely to extend the ejaculatory time. Moreover, a slow, measured technique also reduces penile stimulation maintaining an erection for longer.
witching positions is a fun and intimate way to last longer in bed
Poor sexual performance can land a significant dent on a man’s ego. Therefore, it’s important to exercise patience and support your partner through the struggle to improve their performance.
Positive, non-judgemental support is crucial for the success of any treatment option.
Moreover, it alleviates performance anxiety that has a considerable effect on ejaculatory time.