We all need confidence; whether it is for work, relationships or for public speaking. Nobody is created with unlimited confidence; it is something we learn as we grow older. Most people you see that have a lot of confidence have been practicing for many years, and you also can be like them.
While there is no single quick formula, there are steps, that when combined, lead to a more confident you. We all face some form of rejection in life, and this causes our confidence levels to dwindle. It could be a negative comment from someone you love, or people laughing at you when you do something wrong.
Here are a few steps you can take to lead to a more confident you!
Art of Visualization
You go where your mind leads you.
You cannot expect to have a positive life while your mind is negative. If you visualize a confident you, your mind will start looking for ways to bring this to pass. Every time you are alone, visualize the type of life you want.
Be specific when visualizing.
Push Yourself Beyond Your Limits
We all have stuff that scares us. One way of gaining confidence is to do something that pushes you from your comfort zone.
If you are afraid of heights, try bungee jumping with a friend.
You will realize that you are capable of so much more.
Most of the motivational speakers we view on TV or online were at some point in their lives afraid to stand before crowds of people and speak. They overcome their fears one day at a time by doing that which they thought was impossible. You could be facing an addiction challenge like Adderall withdrawal, so you need to make small goals such as being drug-free for one month, then two months.
Every child needs to be positively affirmed as they grow older. Affirmations are crucial for building healthy self-esteem.
Affirmations are positive statements that you make about yourself, and they should be spoken aloud to be effective.
You can tell yourself that you are beautiful and wonderfully made. Your mind will soon pick up these positive affirmations, and you should soon experience a positive life. Also, make the affirmations in the form of questions.
Our brains tend to pick up these more quickly.
Silence Your Inner Critic
We all have an inner critic ready to criticize us whenever we do something wrong. The inner critic is responsible for our low confidence levels. The inner critic is usually formed due to the negative experiences we have had as children, and it becomes more powerful as we grow older.
To silence your inner critic, analyze your thought patterns and question them for validity. What you are telling yourself about yourself is most of the time not true or is exaggerated. If you find yourself constantly calling yourself a failure, question the evidence that your mind presents.
Failing once or twice does not make you a failure.
Helping someone else who is facing the same challenge as you can help you get the attention away from yourself, and off to another person. When you help someone succeed, you also succeed.
Helping the less fortunate helps you build an attitude of gratitude. It helps you stop focusing on yourself, and beginning to focus on others.
Having a Positive Support Network
Do not expect to live a positive life if negative people surround you. If you want to be more confident, identify positive friends that you admire and ask them to help you.
As you spend more time with positive people, your life starts to change for the better. There are times it could be necessary to move and change your surrounding if you are surrounded with negative people all the time.
Identify Your Talents
The world will not help you become a copycat of someone else, but it will assist you to become a better version of yourself. It is vital that you identify what you are good at early on in life.
Your talent can lie in music, drawing, dancing, or nearly anything else. When you practice your talents, you become more confident, and this spreads to other areas of your life. When you follow your talents, you feel appreciated and unique.
Celebrate Your Achievements
It is good to appreciate yourself when things are going well. You can take yourself out or buy yourself a gift when you achieve something small or great. Instead of waiting for someone to appreciate you, learn to do it yourself.
As humans, we tend to lay a lot of focus on our flaws while ignoring our achievements. If you are going to become a more confident you, you will need to focus on your strengths while working on your weaknesses.
In the same way that you appreciate yourself, learn to take compliments gracefully; not in an egotistical way but with soberness.
Many people who have low self-esteem tend to brush off compliments sent there way with comments like “you are exaggerating.”
When someone compliments you, say thank you. Also, learn to give compliments.
As you accept this part of yourself, you will notice your confidence levels rising again.
Look Into the Mirror
We are often too busy chasing careers to have the time to look ourselves in the mirror and smile at ourselves. While at it, do some positive affirmations.
The mirror sends positive signals to your brain which releases positive emotions. When you practice smiling at yourself, you will notice other people smiling back at you.
You can practice this when you go to the store to purchase groceries; say thank you and smile at the attendant. They could be having a difficult day, and your smile is what they need to get through the day.
Confidence is crucial if you are going to succeed in life. No one is born confident; people learn along the way by making positive changes to their lives.
When you become confident, you spread the positive energy to those around you.